25 Unspoken Signs That Say He Cares About You

A man is so reserved about his emotions that you may even wonder if he is interested in you. In short, expressing clearly is where he might struggle. He may not be direct but certainly leaves some signs he cares about you. Which signs are we talking about? How do we discover them? Here is a tip! Just pay a little more attention, and you will be able to see the caring side of your partner. Still not convinced? Don’t worry! We are here for you.

This article lists 25 subtle signs that your significant other cares for you. Keep scrolling!

25 Subtle Signs He Cares Deeply About You

A man will knowingly and unknowingly show certain signs if he values you profoundly and is committed to building a romantic bond with you. These signs can range from simply asking about your day daily to being protective of you in public. Scroll down to discover the signs.

1. He Is Protective Of You

If you find he is protective of you and goes out of his way to guard you against anything that might harm or upset you, understand what he is leaving unsaid in the relationship.

Another tell-tale sign is him grabbing your hand instinctively while crossing the road or when in a crowd. You can take it as a reassurance that he intends to protect you in every situation.

2. He Puts Your Happiness Before His Own

When a guy pays attention to the things that make you happy, it is a clear sign that he is interested in you. He will often try to do the things that make you happy. Sometimes, this can even mean he will end up doing things that go against his liking. For instance, if a guy is a fan of action movies but goes to the theater to watch romantic movies just because you like them, you know he sincerely feels for you.

3. His Body Language Is Different When You Are Around

The body language of a person can reveal a lot about their feelings. If the guy is interested in you, he will make eye contact with you. He will also be on the lookout for ways to remain near you. In some cases, the guy may become nervous or feel jittery when you are near him. All these are classic body language signs that he cares deeply about you. According to a study, if an individual likes someone, they will unintentionally mimic the postures and gestures of the person they love to convey their feelings or express their interest in them. This behavioral change, also known as the chameleon effect, happens when an individual is attracted to someone (1).

4. He Is Curious About Your Dating Life

Wouldn’t you be interested to know if the guy you like is single or taken? The same holds true for a guy as well. When he is interested in you, he will try to find out if you are single or have someone in your life. In most cases, a guy may not ask the question upfront. But he will try to find out your relationship status in a subtle manner. For instance, he might compliment you to ascertain your status. He may ask you, ‘How can someone like you be single? You are so beautiful”. If he is hanging out with your friend circle, he can casually ask your friends about you, “Does she have someone special in her life?” If he does not care for you, he will not bother to know about your dating life or be bothered with your thoughts on commitment.

5. He Reveals His Relationship Status

This is a big one for those wondering how to tell if a guy likes you. He will try to convey to you that he is single. He may not say it straight, but may drop hints so that you understand on your own or ask him about it. The person can make lighthearted remarks to convey his status. For example, he might just say, ‘No one is around here to steal my hoodies, well, that’s an advantage of being single you know’. Or he might give you details about his personal plan. Like, ‘All my friends are busy with their partners, so guess what I will be traveling solo for the trip. This is a way for him opening the door for you to initiate further communication.

6. He Tries To Connect Over Common Interests

You two may be very different in your personalities and temperament. But if he has any feelings for you, he will try to find out any common hobbies or areas of interest. In other words, he will try to seek out those things over which you both can bond and spend some time doing or talking about them. It is a way for him to find a deeper connection with you, even if it is something as common as relishing ice creams after having your meal.

7. He Showers Compliments On You

When a guy cares about you, he will try to make you feel nice.

One of the ways to do so is to offer you compliments and try to bring a smile to your face. He will always find a reason to say something good about you. It can be anything – right from the way you laugh to the dress you are wearing. These compliments can convey romantic interest. As highlighted in a study, giving a compliment can convey your attraction to the other person. It also reveals that women are more interested in establishing a connection with men, who give them metamorphic compliments (2).

8. He Tries To Keep In Touch

If a guy makes an effort to text or call you regularly, you can be sure that he wants to know if you are okay. He may just send a Good Morning message every day or end his day with a Good Night Whatsapp to you. While this may seem very common, it does indicate that you are on his mind and he wants to check on you.

9. He Is A Little Possessive

No guy can stand to see his girl hitting on someone else or another guy flirting with her, even if he has not expressed his feelings for her yet. If your guy reacts possessively or shows traces of jealousy when you pay attention to another guy, know that he’s beginning to like you. For instance, he may go quiet suddenly, try to outshine the guy by acting in a more charming way, or bring up a new topic and speak loudly to attract your attention. He may even pass an unflattering comment about the guy. Do not read too much into the comment as he is just trying to find out your reaction to his comment. Rather, pay attention to the reason that led him to react in this manner.

10. He Pays Attention To What You Say

A guy will listen to every word you say if he truly cares for you. Whether you want to vent your anger or share a funny incident, you will always find him ready to listen to you. He would sincerely pay attention. You will not find him getting distracted by random things. He may even ignore his phone when you start talking.

Quick Tip

He cares about you by remembering the small yet important issues in your life, like your medical appointments or office meetings. He may also ask for updates later on to show his interest.

11. He Values Your Opinion

Everyone faces big and small issues in life. If a guy seeks your opinion about anything that is bothering him and he values the opinion you share, you must be glad. He might ask you to give your opinion and take the decision for him. For example, I can’t decide what to wear for my best friend’s wedding. You have great taste. Can you help me pick an outfit? Or, he might ask you about your perspective and input about an important matter concerning him. Like, ‘ I am considering buying a house. I am nervous because it’s such a big step. What do you think about that?’. This is one of those easy-to-tell signs that your guy cares for you enough to seek your opinion. It means he trusts your judgment.

12. He Notices The Little Things About You

Sometimes, it is the small things that can make big revelations. If someone cares for you, he is sure to notice the small things about you and keep them in his mind. For instance, if you like your coffee strong with an extra shot of milk, he will make a mental note of the same. The next time you both sit down for coffee, chances are you will not have to repeat your preference. If you see him paying attention to such details, know that this is one of the signs he likes you more than a friend. He genuinely cares for you.

13. He Is Ready To Change or Drop Plans For You

It is easy to see that a guy deeply cares for you if he is ready to drop his plans for you. If he drops his plans with his friends because you need his help, it clearly shows he cares for you. In essence, he is expressing intense empathy and telling you that you matter to him above everything else.

14. He Takes Your Side

When a guy cares for you, he will go to any length to show his support for you. He will stand up for you in public even if he may underline your minus points in private. If someone tries to hurt you or say something harsh to you, he will safeguard you. You can count on him to defend you, no matter what the issue is and who all are involved in it. To put it simply, if your guy always takes your side in front of others, it is a strong sign that he cares for you.

15. He Introduces You To The Other People In His Life

If he considers you precious for him, he will want to take you home to meet his near and dear ones. It is just his way of letting his family and his dear friends know that you are very special to him and he wants them to gel with you easily. He may not seek their approval yet but he wants them to know about you.

16. He Apologizes Sincerely

Some guys find it difficult to admit that they are wrong. But if a guy cares about you and he realizes that he is wrong, he will apologize sincerely for his mistakes. He may even go out of his way to undo the damage and make you smile. For instance, if he has a canceled plan with you, he might try to make up by rescheduling it and booking dinner at your favorite restaurant. He might also surprise you with small gifts like a box of chocolate, flowers, or a handwritten apology letter in an attempt to lighten your mood and fix things up. It is not an attempt to pacify you. It is his feelings that have compelled him to own up to his mistakes in front of you and seek your apology. In fact, studies show that genuine apologies not only help improve relationship satisfaction but also foster forgiveness, and help to maintain a healthy relationship (3).

17. He Treats You Differently

Guys who truly care for someone will treat them differently than someone who is just their friend. If you have started taking a special place in his heart, it will reflect in his behavior and how he treats you. For instance, you may find him holding the door open for you when you enter a room. Chivalry may not be what he usually practices, but if he does it for you, then it should be evident that he cares for you.

18. He Tries To Impress You

If your guy cares for you, he will make an effort to impress you. He may try to make you laugh or share his adventure stories. He may even give you gifts. Whatever he may do, you should not overlook the reason behind his actions. They are an indication of what he feels for you.

19. He Invests Time And Effort To Look Good Around You

Not every guy pays attention to how he looks when he is around you. Some guys may simply not bother about their appearance. But if you see that a guy is investing his time, energy, and effort to look his best in front of you, there should remain no doubt in your mind. For example, he might just turn up wearing a crisp shirt, instead of his usual tee and jeans for dinner with you. Or he might try to smell fresh by trying a new cologne or making sure his hair looks neat and stylish. This is one of the nice and subtle signs that he cares about you more than a friend.

20. He Bonds With Your Friends And Family

Have you noticed that he tries to be extra sweet when he is in the company of your family members? Or did you find that he attempts to be nice to your friends and makes an effort to know them better? These are signs that he truly cares about you. By getting to know the people in your life, he is trying to become familiar with them and place himself in your inner circle.

21. He Looks For Excuses To Be With You

No matter how busy he may be, he will always find time to be with you. For instance, he can say ‘I have a packed schedule, I won’t be able to see you at lunch, but I can spend some time with you over dinner.’ He will look for excuses so that you both can be together. He may even create situations that will compel you two to spend time together. For example, he might say, ‘I was planning to buy some home decor stuff to deck my apartment, do you want to come with me? It would be a great help and keep me company.’ All these undoubtedly mean he cares for you and wants to be with you more often.

22. He Surprises You

When a guy makes an effort to surprise you for no particular reason at all, know that his feelings for you are genuine. He may not always choose to surprise all. But if he has done that with you, he cares for you and wants to see you happy. The surprises may not always be something grand and elaborate. However, they will reflect what he feels for you. In this heartfelt blog post, the blogger recounts how a surprise Valentine’s Day gift from her husband led to sharing an emotional moment. She explains, saying, “He comes in with this bag that says you + me = Awesome. Then he sets [sits] down at a table. At this point, I only have two customers, so I walk over to him, and he says, ‘Happy Valentines day, I love you.’ (i).”

Quick Tip

He also may surprise you unexpectedly on your graduation, first working day, or the day you both first met, to bring you more happiness.

23. He Becomes Excited When You Are Excited

A lot of people become excited over a lot of things. But if you find that a guy is excited because you are excited, make no mistake of misreading his feelings. His action indicates that your happiness and excitement impact him and he becomes equally excited. This could be a clear sign that he cares for you and what makes you happy could make him happy too.

24. He Likes You For Who You Are

Guys are often attracted to a girl based on their looks. But when a guy starts appreciating a girl due to her character, values, and personality, it means he is attracted to her beyond her physical features or beauty. He might just appreciate your intelligence and insight about a particular matter. Or, he might just compliment you about the way you handle tough times in life and acknowledge your ability to navigate through rough waters with grace, strength, and determination. If you find that your guy likes you for who you are and you can let your guard down in front of him, it is a sign he really cares for you as a person.

25. He Follows Your Posts On Social Media

In this digital age, everyone is present on social media. If you find that the guy you like is always keeping track of what you post on social media, it can mean that he likes following your activities on virtual platforms. You may see that he takes an active interest in your posts and always likes or comments on them. These are all signs that he really cares about you.

These unspoken signs are definite indicators of care and affection. However, judging the sincerity of his actions can get tricky at times. There comes the importance of analyzing how emotionally dedicated he is to you. In the next section, we have discussed emotional investment and its aspects.

Understanding Emotional Investment

Emotional investment is the foundation of a relationship. It reflects how much you both are sentimentally attached and if you are committed to being for each other in hard times. Apart from identifying physical signs that say he cares about you, it is important to find the emotional context behind those actions. This understanding will help you judge how genuinely he is invested in you. Two important aspects of emotional understanding and support are below.

• Being Present And Showing Attentiveness

If he stays by your side and empathically handles your vulnerable moments, know he cares deeply. Being emotionally available can be emotionally exhausting for him as well. So, if he putting in that effort, it is something to consider. If he prioritizes you and the bond he shares with you, he is most likely ‘the one’.

• Revealing Vulnerable Moments

A guy will only share his deepest thoughts and anxious feelings with the person he is devoted to. Showing one’s weaknesses is a strong indicator of trust and emotional bonding. If he willingly reveals his not-the-best side to you, know that he finds comfort in you.

Now, take the next step and understand his intentions, feelings, and gain a sense of clarity. Let’s know how to move forward with the connection in the next section.

What To Do If A Guy Cares About You

If you feel that you should nurture your bond and let the relationship evolve, the first and the most important thing is to respond and reciprocate to the care. You can both have open communication and ask each other about your feelings and make sure you are on the same page. If you both reciprocate positive feelings and show mutual care and interest in each other’s life, then letting this connection evolve into something meaningful can be a great idea. For this, it’s important to know and understand each other. Here are some ways you can know each other better:

• Spend Quality Time: The simplest way to take your relationship to the next level is by spending quality time. It helps to get to know each other better, connect on a deeper level, and create shared memories and experiences. For this, you can consider going on a weekend trip, planning a date night, or just spending quality time while watching a movie or cooking dinner at home.
• Show Your Appreciation: Expressing your appreciation is a great way to strengthen your relationship. Thank each other for the efforts and things you do to maintain this connection. For example, you can say, ‘I really appreciate how you make time for us and it means so much to me’. You can also thank one another for simply being there for each other and rendering support in both good and bad times.
• Build Trust: Trust is the very foundation of a relationship. For this, communicate effectively. Talk about your feelings honestly and openly. Share your dreams, fears, insecurities, and details about family, friends, and hobbies to understand each other better and deepen your emotional connection.
• Keep Putting Consistent Efforts: If you want to build a strong relationship, it’s important to show your care, and concern, and be invested in the relationship. Some thoughtful gestures like showing genuine interest and listening to each other at the end of the day, offering encouragement, and regularly seeing each other can go a long way in building an incredible relationship.

Infographic: 10 Signs That He Wants To Commit To An Exclusive Relationship With You

A guy can be into you and still not be ready for an exclusive relationship for several reasons. However, sometimes things click, and the guy you are seeing gives way too many signs to show that they want to be exclusive and committed to a serious relationship with you. Check out the infographic for some tell-tale signs that help in understanding if he is really serious about you and wants to take the relationship to a deeper level.

Illustration: StyleCraze Design Team

Frequently Asked Questions

Should I believe that he cares about me even if he doesn’t say it?

Yes, you should surely believe that he cares about you even if he doesn’t say it, as the heartfelt efforts and actions done by your partner reflect their love and care. Even though he doesn’t say it verbally, actions speak louder than words. However, if he doesn’t show you his appreciation and support and is distant at times, you might want to talk to him about how you feel.

What should I do if I recognize these signs but he hasn’t verbally expressed his feelings?

Communication is the key to achieving clarity and understanding. Ask him face-to-face about his advances toward you if he fails to approach you directly. However, be respectful of his emotions even if they are not what you presumed.

How to test him to see if he cares?

Ask your partner questions on the things you like or dislike to see if he keeps a track of them. Instead of trying to test him, you can have an open conversation with him about how you feel.

Why does he care about me so much?

He cares about you so much because he shares a beautiful bond with you and respects and loves you deeply.

He may not say it, but he probably cares about you more than you think. Click on the video and learn the 8 signs that show he’s really into you.

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